Values Exercise

Living Into Our Values

Content and exercise covered on

Values Clarification                          pages 185–197 of _{Dare to Lead.} 

Refer to the list on page 3 and identify your two values—the beliefs that are most important to you, that help you find your way in the dark, that fill you with a feeling of purpose.

When selecting your values, ask yourself the following questions:

•     Does this define me?

•     Is this who I am at my best?

•     Is this a filter that I use to make hard decisions?

Value 1: Caring

Value 2: Loyalty

Taking Values From BS to Behavior

Answer the following questions to dig into your values:

Value 1:

  1. What are one or two behaviors that support your value? Listening and showing            up for people in good and bad times.

2.  What are one or two slippery behaviors that are outside your value? Feeding into anger and speaking without thinking

3.  What’s an example of a time when you were fully living into this value? Whenever I check in with friends and actively listen to their problems, as well as offer help.

Value 2:

1.   What are one or two behaviors that support your value? Acting with honesty and putting others needs above my own

2.  What are one or two slippery behaviors that are outside your value? Acting out of disrespect

3.  What’s an example of a time when you were fully living into this value? Whenever I honor my commitments whether it’s relationships, employment, etc.

 

Keeping in mind both of your values, answer the following:

1.   Who is someone who knows your values and supports your efforts to live into them? My mom

2.  What does support from this person look like?

Encouraging me to be better and treat others better

3.  What can you do as an act of self-compassion to support yourself in the hard work of living into your values?

Show the same values I show to others to myself

4.  What are the early warning indicators or signs that you’re living outside your values?

My heart feels hardened toward people and my thoughts

5.  What does it feel like when you’re living into your values?

It feels like everyone I speak to leaves encouraged

6.  How can you check yourself? By constantly checking my speech and by asking myself if I've truly been serving and encouraging people or just setting an expectation for them.

List of Values

Accountability

Achievement

Activism

Adaptability

Adventure

Altruism

Ambition

Authenticity

Balance

Beauty

Being the best

Being a good sport

Belonging

Career

Caring

Co-creation

Collaboration

Commitment

Community

Compassion

Competence

Confidence

Connection

Contentment

Contribution Cooperation

Courage

Creativity

Curiosity

Dignity

Diversity

Efficiency                                     Intuition                                           Security

Environment                                Job security                                         Self-discipline

Equality                                        Joy                                                        Self-expression

Ethics                                            Justice                                              Self-respect

Excellence                                   Kindness                                         Serenity

Fairness                                        Knowledge                                     Service

Faith                                              Leadership                                     Simplicity

Family                                           Learning                                          Spirituality

Financial stability                      Legacy                                              Stewardship

Forgiveness                                 Leisure                                              Success

Freedom                                      Love                                                 Teamwork

Friendship                                   Loyalty                                            Thrift

Fun                                                 Making a difference                   Time

Future generations                  Nature                                             Tradition

Generosity                                   Openness                                       Travel

Giving back                                 Optimism                                        Trust

Grace                                            Order                                               Truth

Gratitude                                     Parenting                                            Understanding

Growth                                         Patience                                          Uniqueness

Harmony                                     Patriotism                                       Usefulness

Health                                          Peace                                               Vision